A few years ago, I started to realize that some of the people I was spending my time with were not the healthiest for me. I am the kind of person who makes friends very easily and since I have lived in a lot of different cities and states, I have made a lot of friends. Every place I have ever lived, I have made some life-long friends and some that God just meant for me to have for a short while.
When I started my business with Young Living over three years ago, I really dove into the self-development part of being a better person for myself, my family, and my team. The more I read and learn, the more I realize I need to surround myself with wonderful, positive people who make me a better version of myself. Life is too short to spend time with people who are negative and put you down. Positivity breeds positivity. I absolutely LOVE being part of a company that is all about bettering yourself through wellness, purpose, and abundance. I feel like I have finally found people who really “get” me.
I have ended a handful of relationships over the past few years because they were not healthy for me. I don’t think they ever were but I just kept investing in them because well, I didn’t know any better. I have some family members who think ending a relationship is the worst thing in the world. They will hold onto a relationship, no matter how unhealthy it is, no matter what. I disagree with that. I feel if there is a relationship that is a huge stressor and strain in your life, and you have tried your absolute best to rectify any disagreements or negativity between the two of you and the relationship is stuck, it is time to let go. We are only on this earth one time and life is just way too short to spend time with people who you don’t feel good around. If a friendship does not serve both parties well and makes you feel really yucky inside, it is okay to let it go.
I have always been the black sheep of my family. I think it’s because I think very differently than the rest of my family and I don’t do what everyone else does. I am okay with this and it has served me well in my life. I have done a lot with my life so far and am proud of my accomplishments, friendships, family, faith, and now my business and team members. I don’t look for too much validation and acceptance from my family because they really just don’t understand me and the way I think. I think I learned to accept differences when I went to college, lived in Atlanta, Georgia, Ann Arbor, Michigan, and many other places in my life. When we are constantly exposed to different people and they way they think, we are much more accepting and flexible.
I’m not one to go along just to get along. I encourage you not to do this, either. I ask questions and if I see or feel something isn’t right, I will challenge it. My family does not like that and they feel more comfortable with people who are the same as they are and think the same as they do. That’s just not me and I’m okay with that. I feel if someone has such a problem with it, they probably have some major insecurities with themselves and are afraid to explore that. Many times people point fingers at others and forget that when you point a finger at someone, you have three fingers pointing back to you! Huh, that’s pretty ironic, isn’t it?
We homeschool our kids now and I really want them to be open and accepting of other people and their ideas. Even if they don’t understand someone and why they say or do something, I really want to teach them to be tolerant of everyone. I hope we are teaching our kiddos to respect that everyone is different and we need to love their differences, embrace and learn from them. Just because someone is different than we are does not make them wrong or a bad person. We can learn from everyone.
What I have found since letting go of toxic relationships in my life is that I feel much freer and happier. I have opened the door to meeting people who are positive and empowering who I probably never would have met if I would have held on to the negative relationships. Letting go of the negative has allowed me to be open for the positive. I am very thankful for that.
I encourage you to explore who you surround yourself with. You know the saying, “You Become Like the 5 People You Spend the Most Time With. Choose Carefully.”
It’s all about the journey…